Nature has a subliminal way of
communicating to man its point of view regarding anything, particularly when
its course has been altered, tampered with or even out rightly violated. It has
its own fight-back mechanism, its exclusive alarm system that does not fail in
communicating effectively how it feels. Conversely, when its argument is
accepted wholeheartedly, there is a kind of peace, balance and cohesion that
cannot be rivalled by any other solution other than going back to the drawing
board, Nature’s drawing board.
It
is true that the concept of virginity today is one that is deemed overrated,
trodden down and somewhat regarded as a Stone-Age phenomenon. At best, the
exclamation one would get on hearing the status of the other would be a wow,
and very few wows are that of admiration and respect, as opposed to the gamut
of wows that are borne out of the feeling that the virgin is outlandish and not
in tune with the trends and times. Some people actually go ahead to postulate
obnoxious and spurious medical theories of health repercussions that would
arise when a man or woman attains a certain age without doing the do. To crown
the moral rot, most people run to town with these hypotheses, and actually act
on the aegis of its fear, without a certain proof of its tenability.
It
is also as real as the midday sun, that virginity is a virtue which terms of
reference has been unfairly restricted to the female folk. The woman is
expected to be chaste and pure while waiting for Mr Right, while it is deemed
societally okay for the man to go on a sexual philandering, exploring and
conquering, for as long as he desires. While the society has handed the world
wholesale to the man, it does not in any way negate the fact that what is good
for the goose is good for the gander. Again, because of the perversion and the
level of moral depravity that is the order of the day, even the concept of
virginity has become departmentalized and technicalized. There are the primary,
secondary and tertiary virgins, their definitions and terms of classifications
as sparse as the Sahara.
The
definition of the term virgin is as simple as it gets-anything that begins to
demand copious and repeated explanation to drive home a single point is a shady
one, as i recently learned. For avoidance of ambiguity, a virgin is one who has
not had sexual experience of any kind, requested or accidental. Experience here
precludes everything that is not the fusion of the male and female reproductive
organs-books, movies, fantasies, chancing on other people in the act, and
everything else in that bracket. As it
would seem, the ones which fall in the accidental column would be the ones
which the sin-charged atmosphere currently holding sway has forced on us, but
the truth remains that an image, and opinion has been engraved on the mind of
the receiver, which are most times unwholesome, and would take enormous mental
and spiritual effort to erase.
The
consummation and height of the sexual experience would be the actual union of
both coital equipment, and like the opening statement, nature has made it so
that both sexes ought to stay innocent of conjugal experience until the
marriage act is consummated. And like the stars, the advantages and blessings
are legion. Even what is termed a disadvantage is often seen as such through
defiled spectacles, and cannot possibly count where nature has already put a
stamp of approval. If the man and his wife married as virgins, the issue of
cheating and inordinate bedroom demands and desires are practically non-existent.
Very few people know that since sex brought about human life, any slip in
anything concerning it will automatically spell wrong for both the person and
the larger society. The issue of low libido and lack of sexual prowess cannot
arise, since there has been no prior experience to compare it with. The bond
between the couple is second to none. There can be no boredom whatsoever. The
procreation of God-fearing, sane and high-flying children is sure-banker. And i
dare say, the route to heaven is straighter and easier.
It is because virginity has become utopic
that the world spiritual and marital has been turned to an amphitheatre of
drama, rot and riot. And Nature keeps watching, chin in hand, waiting for those
who can retrace their steps and come crawling back to her.
Ogbonna Nnaemeka Henry.
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